Marriage infidelity. The broken trust in a friendship. Divorce. Unmet expectations. Pornography and virtual infidelity. Keeping important secrets from family or friends, and they discover the truth later, from some other source.
These are just a few examples of things that happen in the human condition, the end result being feelings of betrayal by the partner, friend, and significant relationship. For some, this offense, betrayal, is something seemingly impossible to get over, and can lead to feelings of deep depression, anger, and other emotional problems. Some have also experienced physical symptoms due to not being able to move forward from this betrayal that could have happened recently or years ago.
Do you want to be free of the grip of Betrayal?
It is difficult to navigate infidelity and broken trust alone.
5 For His anger lasts only a moment, but His favor, a lifetime. Weeping may spend the night, but there is joy in the morning. Psalms 30:5 (HCSB)
Making those first steps towards each other can be hard, when there is hurt and disappoint in the relationship.
Sometimes it takes asking for help to move forward. Make the move towards a better marriage today.
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“In the early days of marriage, we struggled greatly. I found myself with negative feelings toward my wife. She did not live up to my expectations, and I’m sure she would have said the same about me. I finally decided that I did not marry a perfect woman, and she did not marry a perfect man. It’s true — we had our differences, but I didn’t marry her to make her miserable. I wanted us to learn to work together as a team and enjoy life together and rear our children in a loving home. The first thought that came to my mind was, Why don’t you ask her? So I did.
“She was eager to help me. Within two months, she asked me to give her ideas on how to be a better wife. That was 15 years ago. Now we have a great marriage. Both of us are happy and our children are wonderful.”
“What about the sexual aspect of your marriage?” I asked.
He looked at me with a twinkle in his eye and said, “It couldn’t be better.” I knew they were making love, not just having sex.
That husband’s journey illustrates the principle that the second stage of love begins with an attitude. The attitude expresses itself in acts of kindness that, in turn, stimulate warm feelings. Those couples who learn to move from stage one to stage two of emotional love are the couples who learn how to make love, not just have sex.
Too many couples simply wait, hoping that “the tingles” will return. When they don’t, their attitude and behavior become negative, and they destroy what they most want — a happy marriage. Emotional love can be restored, but it doesn’t happen simply with the passing of time.
(Gary Chapmen radio broadcast on Marriage)
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